Name Calling, Bullying, and Cyberbullying

Gentle Readers,

My recent post on the Lottery elicited a response from a reader “down under” who posted the comment “You’re the Devil.” As you know, I am the Queen of Common Sense and promote myself as a wise woman who uses both wisdom and common sense in my decision-making process as well as promoting the same in others.  This was not an acceptable comment to post.  While I advocate free speech, in my not-so-humble opinion, this comment does not fall under the category of free speech.  Name calling and insults are inappropriate comments under any circumstance.

I sensed that this individual is hurting. If he knew me and called me a “Devil” to my face, I might have been able to understand where he was coming from and what was bothering him.  However, when someone calls anyone a name or bullies them without an explanation, that is just plain rude.  I have had experiences in my life (and career) with “Good Christians” which were not always pleasant.  Many of these Christians are amazing individuals.  They are fantastic people.  However, when it comes to their religious beliefs, some “Good Christians” can be inflexible and lack tolerance of anything that offends them.  I was raised to accept people of every race, religion, etc. as they are — another human being with faults.  Tolerance and understanding was what I learned.  I also learned that even though someone’s beliefs may offend me, they are entitled to their beliefs as long as those beliefs (religious or otherwise) do not hurt another being (human or animal).

This person, may have meant well, from his point of view, but it was nonetheless an inappropriate comment.  He could have said, “You are talking about Tarot cards and they are the ‘Devil’s’ tool.”  He could also have said several other things such as the following:

  • I believe you are an evil person because ________________.
  • Tarot cards are against my religion and/or beliefs.
  • I did not care for what you posted, because _________________.

Instead this person hid behind an insult directed at someone they do not know.

Let’s put this person’s comment in proper perspective.

  1. Strangers constantly bully people and celebrities.  Think about all of the comments that you may have been privy to — hurtful and supportive in the wake of Robin Williams’ recent death.
  2. Every day, someone in the world is dealing with someone who refuses to see any point of view that is not their own.  I refer to them as inflexible and intolerant people.
  3. Cyberbullying allows most people to remain anonymous.  Social media cyberbullying has become very common place.
  4. This behavior is hurtful.

There are many reasons why people call others names, bully and/or cyberbully others.  Rather than think about why someone does this, follow my example and do something to help someone who is being bullied today, and any day you encounter some form of bullying.  In my situation, I am grateful that reader insulted me.  He allowed me the opportunity to write this particular blog entry.  Join the Queen of Common Sense and help stop bullying.

Bless you, Gentle Readers.

Lottery Question

Gentle readers, I cannot tell you how many times people have asked me for winning lottery numbers.  My immediate response to them has always been:  “If I could provide winning lottery numbers, do you think I would be here performing readings?  My gift does not work that way.”

Of course if I had the gift of picking winning lottery numbers or horses, I would never have to work again.  I would be living the life of a Queen.  Even though I am the Queen of Common Sense, that does not mean that I live a life of comfort and ease.  I most certainly do not.  Even I do not get a free ride in a chariot.

I have stated, on numerous occasions, that if someone is meant to win a sweepstakes, contest, or lottery, they will win regardless of how many tickets they purchase or how many times they enter.  I personally know someone whose life changed dramatically from the purchase of just one $5 raffle ticket.  The prize was not a large one, but the Creator in his/her infinite wisdom decided that this individual would never make that sort of change — a leap of faith unless a small miracle happened.

(Cards courtesy of the Rider-Waite-Smith Deck)

For those of you who are Tarot enthusiasts, might I suggest the pairing of the Wheel of Fortune — karma (or luck) and the Death Tarot card — change and transformation as a good explanation of a turn of the wheel of fate or life which produces a transformative change of one’s life.  Details withheld due to confidentiality.

We are ALWAYS amused.

Wrong Queen, but the statement is accurate. There are days where I just abhor being called upon to perform a reading for someone. Why, you might ask? Well, it is really quite simple. Let give you an example.

Let’s say…

Lady Petunia asks me if her philandering husband is cheating on her again.

My response to her was, “Do you honestly think he stopped cheating on you? He has done this twice already and profusely apologized both times. Seriously, dear Petunia, this is not about whether he is philandering again, it is about your deciding if you want to stay in this marriage.”

Her response was, “I want to believe him.”

I replied, “Dear lady, you can want to believe him, but deep in your heart, you know you cannot believe him. You do not need to make up your mind now. Take your time and think about how your life would be with him and without him. Once you know what you want to do, you just need to follow through.”

By the way, her Tarot card reading showed she wanted him to change.