I’d like to share with you a few questions I received over the years regarding meeting a soul mate. While we have many soul mates and may meet a few in our life time, this does not necessarily mean we are destined to spend our life with them — happily ever after. That is a bit of a stretch, especially if we just met them. It takes time to get to know someone. Too many people are searching for amazing chemistry, which often burns out as quickly as it begins. Off the chart chemistry may be soul mate energy, but it has to simmer. As most people know, a great pasta sauce or pot of soup needs to simmer once it comes to a boil — all ingredients must blend together.
I remember an acting teacher of mine once said, “Love affairs usually start when a movie begins filming and ends when the film wraps.” She cited several examples of this, however, common decency and ethics prevents me from elaborating further. Some of these relationships have lasted many years because the couples involved did the work necessary to grow the relationship.
Several of my clients told me, “I think I met my soul mate. Did I?”
Trying not to laugh, I informed them, “If you have to ask me if he is your soul mate, he most certainly is not.” In all of these situations, the men (not gentlemen) were using a great line to get what they wanted, and disappeared shortly thereafter.
Another soul mate question I was asked was, “Do you know when I am going to meet my soul mate?”
This lady was already happily married to a wonderful man who was good to her, a terrific father to their children and a hard working man — what we might refer to as a good provider.
I then asked her, “Why do you need a soul mate? She told me a psychic told her she was going to meet her soul mate.
I asked her, “Why would you destroy a perfectly good marriage?”
She just stared at me dumbfounded. Apparently it never occurred to her what would happen if she allowed herself to be pursued by this so-called soul mate.
” Just because some fortuneteller told you that you were going to meet your soul mate does not necessarily mean that this person would be good for you.”
There are many people, both men and women, who are looking for their soul mate all the time. Realistically speaking, if you love someone and they love you back, are you both doing the work to make this relationship grow and last? If so, forget about looking for a soul mate.
In most cases, that soul mate feeling it is often a very strong chemical attraction. If you manage to keep your clothes on and take the time to get to know a person, perhaps a few days or weeks later, you will find out who this person really is, and if spending time with them is in your best interests.
In this case, patience, and common sense first … then intuition.