Nearly everyone has heard heard the expression, “The eyes are the windows to your soul, ” or “The eyes are the mirror of your soul.” This is true. Your eyes can communicate your feelings, often better than words can. Why not re-watch old movies with Greta Garbo, John Gilbert, Mary Pickford, the Gish sisters, Charlie Chaplin, Lon Chaney and others? Without subtitles, you can still tell what the characters the actors were portraying were feeling and experiencing — through their eyes and body language.
When you look someone in the eye, you can see if they are being honest with you. If you are shy or want to flirt, you may avert your eyes or give someone a “come hither look.” If you are upset, you may have tears in your eyes. If you are happy, your eyes may sparkle and even “dance,” especially if you are teasing someone or telling a joke. If you are focused, there may be an intensity in your eyes. In many cases, your body language will support what you are feeling.
This brings me to the subject of online/app dating profiles and sunglasses. Far too many dating profiles contain photos of potential dates wearing sunglasses in every picture, or nearly every picture. What were they thinking? If people are looking for real connections, wouldn’t it better serve them to present an accurate image of themselves? Wearing sunglasses can be a deterrent because it hides their most valuable asset — their eyes. My advice to you, Gentle Reader, is simple: If you do not see the “whites of their eyes,” consider swiping left. If someone hides their eyes, they may be afraid of being vulnerable. Yes, most people have been hurt at least once in their life. In order to love and be loved, you most assuredly will get hurt or hurt the person you love at some point in time. It is unavoidable. If you have a good partner, you both will work through those moments together and patch things up because you love each other and want your relationship to work. That is why heartfelt apologies and makeup sex can be fabulous!
Celebrities were known for wearing sunglasses so they could go out in public without being recognized — so they could live as much of a normal life as possible. No sunglasses please, unless you have a medical condition that warrants wearing them, or you are sitting or standing in bright sunlight. Seriously. Take off the shades, be vulnerable and take a flattering selfie. You know you want to make a good impression on a potential date now, don’t you?
Gentle Readers, do you have any thoughts or comments to share? Please do as I value your inputyour thoughts and ideas.